A few months ago, a girlfriend of mine went through something that many of us dread. A breakup. Yes, it happens to the best of us and we usually don’t want to blast it out to all of our friends and families or share something that is so personal with the random people we may have as ‘friends’ on Facebook. My girlfriend was in the same position and asked me to help with removing her relationship status on Facebook without people seeing. I put together this step-by-step guide for her with a bit of Google research and experimenting:
I’m not a weddings expert or a bride-to-be, but I was instantly ready to say I Do to these gorgeous Chinese Laundry Wedding Head over Heels shoes. The platform is very of the moment, the lace is timeless and the ribbon and bow add a bit of a fashion statement.
Most brides decide to go with long ground skimming wedding gowns. These shoes are perfect for the walk down the aisle because when the bride will be gliding towards the alter, the ankle details will be hidden by the gown. Later on when it time to dance up a storm at the reception, the cute little bow and details will be visible as she picks up her dress to move around.
In addition to all the gorgeous details, the best part about these shoes is the price! They are only $99! You can also find affordable shoes to match for your bridesmaids within the collection.
Talking about these shoes are really making me want to get married so I’ll stop now and send you over to the rest of the Chinese Laundry Wedding collection. A big congratulations to all the brides of 2010!
With our busy lives, it’s hard to plan ahead for that perfect Valentine’s day present for your girlfriend. Yes, it is a legitimate excuse, but I hate to break it to you guys, your girlfriend is not going to buy it! So get her jewelry, the fail-safe present, and you will be covered on Feb 14th, 2010.
See the Stylester picks below for presents in a pinch that are guaranteed to arrive at the doorstep of your loved one by Valentine’s day.
Swarovski
The Lala Pierced Earrings in red crystals. Price: $59.00 USD
Order by 3pm EST on Feb 11st from Swarovski.com and get guaranteed delivery.
So one of my best guy friends tells me today, in typical New York style, about a girl he’s sort of dating:
“i think i’m moving into being a support structure for her and i don’t really want that”
Now, what do I make of this?
I mean, I know my friend, I’ll obviously take his side, but is it his fault that the girl isn’t getting it that he’s just not that into her? Should he be even less responsive to her increasing number of texts or should she just stop texting?
I was talking to my best friend a few nights back who lives all the way out in Calgary, Canada, about growing older and becoming afraid of taking risks and making huge changes in our lives. The conclusion we came to is that after the age of 25, people tend to get settled in, and comfortable in what they know, and therefore are afraid to do things that may bring change into lives. This includes things like the city they live in, the job they might be in as well the relationships they are in. It is surely also tied to the quarter life crisis (which the sixth paragraph of this blogpost sums it up quite well), actually, it is probably the reason for the quarter life crisis. Once we begin to be forced to become responsible for ourselves, we become afraid of making the wrong choices, because if we fail, we wont have so much of our family, BFFs or roommates to fall back on. We’ll only have ourselves. That’s a scary thought. So, when things are comfortable, it is that much harder to take a risk that might ruin the fine balance in which we live our lives now.
All this said, I wish I could just turn the clock back about 13 years and go back to being 11 and oblivious.
I have always wondered how couples that work together bear to stand each other and stick it out day in and day out, with each other, every single second of the day!
I work in the same company as my BF but in separate departments and we
never see each other in the office unless we specifically plan to meet
for lunch or coffee.
I’ve seen an older married couple working together very closely at a
previous job I had and it was slightly strange. It was weird to see
the boss treat his wife as any other employee and get mad at her, and
it was equally weird to see him being extra harsh on her because she
was his wife or being rude or dismissive towards her in a personal
rather than professional way.
For sometime, I thought it would have been cool to work with my future
partner and maybe open up a business together, but now that I’m older
and have a better taste of working life, I realize that is clearly a
horrible idea.
Here’s my advice to 20 somethings or 30 somethings, or women in
general is that if you can avoid it, DON’T get in business with your
husband or boyfriend!
Look at what happened to the Magnolia bakery girls – they were BFFs and then
broke up after going into business together.
A little separation in a relationship will only make the time spent
together more special, so keep work and love separate. That’s this
naive and inexperienced 20 something girl’s 2 cents.
I have to admit that the thought of marriage is super scary to me; that is the thought of being with someone forever and ever, and also the thought of breaking up with someone who you live with and are completely dependent on.
.. In sociology and psychology classes in college, I learnt that the likelihood of divorce increases by something like 50% if you cohabitate before tying the knot. That’s an added 50% risk you are taking on top of the terrible divorce stats these days, (everyone knows that half of all marriages in North America end in divorce). So, in the end, if you live together, statistically, the chances of you staying married and not getting divorced is ONLY 25%!!!
Think about it, and don’t do it.
I hate to admit it, but the following article from www.drlauraberman.com actually says it quite well:
According to DrLauraBerman.com, these are the reasons why you should NOT move in together with your boyfriend before marriage.
Heaps of studies over the past two decades have found a higher risk of divorce among couples who live together before marriage. While some of this may be explained by the fact that less-traditional people are more willing to live together before marriage — and perhaps more willing to end a marriage in which they’re unhappy — studies still find that playing house before you are actually Mr. and Mrs. can decrease your chances of ending up happily-ever-after. With nearly half of all couples deciding to move in together at some point in their relationship, this is an important correlation to consider.
Living together before marriage may weaken a couple’s conflict resolution skills and willingness to compromise. When you know that you can walk away at any time, working through difficult relationship problems is less of a priority. And that can be a hard habit to break once you’re married.
I was at a Rare Bar the other day and happened to overhear two older gentlemen, in their late 30s and early 40s talking about how young they should go when dating girls. The gentleman in his 40s was trying to convince the one in his late 30s that he can go as low as a 24 year old girl.
And at that point, I moved myself away from this conversation. haha.
Anyway, after consulting with my fab coworker Lauren the next day, I was informed about the golden rule in dating older men. Here it is: The girl should be at least half the man’s age, plus 7. So let’s say the man is 30, the girl should not be any younger than 22. (30/2=15, +7=22).
Although I personally think that’s pushing it a little.
I spoke with a friend of a friend yesterday who just got a membership at Match.com and is now obsessed with it. She joined less than a week ago, and already has 3 dates lined up for next week. Generally, I would be the first one to say “it’s not for me” or “I’d never try it, it’s lame” but this girl is cool, smart and good looking, and if she likes it so much, there must be something to it.
She inspired me to write the following – in her words and mine:
First rule: Don’t be apprehensive – just dive in. Just make that first account to try it out. If you don’t like it, you’re not forced to keep using it.
Think of it as a 3 month meal plan! – you’ll get to eat at amazing restaurants and hopefully not pay too much, depending on the type of guy you went on a date with.
A lot of young people are doing it! Everyone I know who is dating online at the moment and openly talks about it, is young, very outgoing, smart, and good looking. I am not exaggerating here either.
Why did they get into it? one of them was out of boredom, and another because he just moved to a new city, and another because that’s what all his friends were doing. A girlfriend even called Match.com the new facebook because Match.com is apprantly just as addictive and fun.
So ladies, and gents, don’t be shy or look down upon it. Give it a shot and let me know how it goes.
As us twenty something girls leave college and university to start our lives in the real world, we are tragically ripped apart from our girlfriends who we partied, laughed, cried, fought and made up with, and pretty much did everything with for the four years of university.
It’s hard to keep that friendship alive when you no longer live together or close by, and even harder if you move away to different cities. As we get older, we realize that a good friend is even harder to come by than a good man, so I recommend doing anything you can to keep your friendship alive (even if not as strong as before). Here are some easy ways how:
Email each other! All the time! send each other links, or anytime that something happens that reminds you of each other.
Send random text messages – kind of like you do to your boyfriend, send a random text to your best girl to tell her that you are thinking of her, you miss her, or even “OMG, this girl on the street is wearing a hideous jacket!”
Tell each other about how naughty you’ve been – whether that’s eating too much, or drinking too much! It’s nice to have someone to scold you and get you back in shape, and someone to laugh over your own silliness with.
INVEST! time, effort, and money into your long distance friendship. Spend at least a few mins each week to write to each other, put in a effort to pick up the phone and call her long-distance (remember her time zone though!) and invest the money to go visit her in whatever corner of the world she might be living in now. You’ll get to see another part of the world and also your best friend. (Steph and I both went to visit Nilam in Cardiff, Wales last year.)
Don’t think too much or hesitate – just hit the “send” button already! even if it’s just a “hey” or a “what’s up”.
And on that note, I’m hitting the Publish button on this blog =)
My BFFs in the whole wide world. I love you guys! NRS for life!
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